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I MUST LOVE MY CHILDREN                 By Phil Guerena Sr.

Children are meant to be a joy and jewels in our lives and homes.  These are precious gifts given to man by God. “Behold, children are heritage from the LORD, the fruit of the womb is a reward.”       (Psalm 127:3) Some thought that the rule of the hickory stick was the best way to bring them up.  Yes, they must learn discipline but it must not be beaten into them. Above all, love should prevail in any discipline, whether it be through words or actions.  May your words always be gentle, soft and encouraging.   “In mercy and truth Atonement is provided for iniquity; And by the fear of the LORD one departs from evil.” (Proverbs 16:6)  Let them know that no matter what, they are appreciated and loved.  

Correction has to be made by putting mercy before truth.   If truth comes without mercy that becomes a rod very difficult to bear.  Such a message could be interpreted as hatred and rejection. May it never be!  That is why both parents, father and mother, must be in agreement with how to discipline.  “Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged.” (Colossians 3:21}   
The best way to communicate love and acceptance is to spend time with them.  Family time together every day, if possible, is a time of instruction and fun.  Reading good books and the Bible at these family gatherings can become very special.  In the middle ages when there was no television and radio, many people came to hear stories being read out loud.  When Christopher Columbus sailed to America, one of the most appreciated moments on the ships was the time adventure stories were read out loud to all the passengers.   This is an excellent custom that is being destroyed for families by the television. Table games and fun times can still be enjoyed by all. Going to church together can be a very positive way of being in agreement as a family.  

The fear of the LORD is taught by helping them follow the TEN COMMANDMENTS and reading the Bible to them. We all want the best for our children and hopefully they can become better than us.   The lessons they learn from us are very valuable.  Sad to say though bad examples can be learned as well. If we are rebellious and stubborn so will they be that way too. I had a dentist who was a dentist like his father and grandfather.  From their examples he learned how to become a productive healthcare professional.

Job of the book of Job in the Bible, prayed for his children every day.  That should be our duty also. If you are missing many of these positive traits from your family, there is hope for you.  Start your own family positive influences and tear away from any negative ones that you might have had.  Rebellious parents are dangerous because their children and grandchildren will probably do the same and possibly even worse. (Proverbs 17:11)  By the grace of God, many of us had to avoid such negative influences and start a new family of faithful members. In the Bible, God says that He knew us before we were in our mother’s womb. He wants the best for us and He gave us the best example to follow and guide us, Jesus Christ the very Son of God.   “For to this you were called, because Christ also suffered for us, leaving us an example, that you should follow His steps… Nor was deceit found in His mouth.” (I Peter 2:21-22)