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THE BLINDNESS OF ANGER                     By Phil Guerena Sr.

“An angry man stirs up strife, And a furious man abounds in transgression.  A man’s pride will bring him low, But the humble in spirit will retain honor.”  (Proverbs 29:22-23)    Usually, an angry person will easily lose friends because they disagree with him.  Often, it is the case, his marriage is also held together by such a short string.  Sometimes, there are many ways to look at a problem; however there may be times when it has two contradicting solutions.  May it never be my way or the highway, may all disagree in peace and friendship like we must do in a family.  Unbridled anger, whether it be openly or calmly displayed, accepts only my way and usually no other one.  This can make enemies of good friends.  “The discretion of a man makes him slow to anger; And his glory is to overlook a transgression.”   (Proverbs  19:11)
Pride holds back any real honor to solve a matter, but humility will open its heart and swallow pride for the sake of staying friends.  This also works when taking godly advice right from the bible.   Arrogance is something that is put forth when angry.  It lets any negative concepts flood the mind in excusing itself to commit sin, disobedience to God’s commandments- like turning the other cheek.  

There are so many instructions in God’s Word to keep us faithful and obedient.  Meekness is  opened minded, ever learning, ever holy, and clean.  Anger, on the other hand, exhibiting arrogance and selfishness, can work the opposite.  It will negatively impact every aspect of our lives, even those that are the most intimate.  One common manifestation of anger is in the area of sexual sin.  When seeking intimacy an angry person will approach such relationships with the same type of selfishness and arrogance as they do with any other.  Because such behavior only works to isolate and alienate the irritated person he will often seek fulfillment of intimacy through other means.

Those means commonly come in the form of fornication, adultery and/or pornography.  Scripture gives clear teachings on how to avoid falling into such traps… “Remove your way far from her, And do not go near the door of her house. Lest you give your honor to others. And your years to the cruel one.”    (Proverbs 5:8-9)    This cruel one spoken of in verse 9 seems to be identified in Proverbs 27:4, also, which states that wrath is cruel and anger outrageous.   In order to cover his shame of unfaithfulness, even in pornography, the person gets mad.  Very often when a person is overcome by wrath he thinks that he is right and only fools disagree with him.  He believes his anger is justified and thereby permits him to do whatever he wants or desires.  There is no such thing as “justified anger”.  God asked Jonah when He got angry, “Do you have a right to be angry?”.  No one has a right to turn God off nor His Divine desire to keep us holy- clean and faithful. 

I have seen many men when accused of adultery or looking at dirty pictures, get angry and defend themselves with this negative emotional behavior.   There is a positive gentle anger that encourages, lifts up, forgives and heals.    However, the individual trying to keep his dirty thoughts and life does not easily give up such fury.  It is not wrath that causes us to act this way, it is our uncontrolled sinful desires.  The solution is humbleness, repentance, and confession unto God and seeking His ways daily.  Anger is blind to this solution and openly rebels against God, His word, and anyone who ministers on His behalf. 

  Proverbs 28:13-14 says: “He who covers his sins will not prosper, But whosoever confesses and forsakes them will have mercy.  Happy is the man who always fears, But whosoever hardens his heart will fall into calamity.” The first step is humbleness.  Remember, God never wants to hurt our pride, He wants to kill it.  Yes you can be humble and clean.